Once the crisis is over, your reason will come back
Chen Xiao is a female teacher.
In her own words, she is already middle-aged and has many questions to choose as soon as possible!
At present, her most difficult problem is her career.
Stay or go, this is a question that countless people have asked me, but today this question was asked from Chen Xiao’s mouth, still makes me feel a little different.
Because, generally, women like her are moving towards a stable and secure life, but Chen Xiao’s bones always seem to have such a strong momentum, vigorous and want to burst out.
In her information sheet, I saw that she started from administrative work, worked as secretary, teaching affairs, marketing, foreign trainer, foreign language teacher, etc.
Every job has outstanding results.
She is also full of confidence in her evaluation: as long as you work hard, everything is possible!
Speaking of his current job, Chen Xiao was obviously more emotional.
“I feel particularly depressed all day!
She said that the people around her were either older and had older ideas; or they were very young and had no experience.
“I don’t think I can learn anything. I just spend my days easily and my life is extremely boring!
There was a panic in the words “I can’t learn anything.”
”Is it important for you to learn?
“I followed that feeling.
Chen Xiao nodded for a moment, immediately nodded and said, very firm.
“I think if I don’t read books and learn new things for a day, I will be thirsty!
“This reminds me of the information form submitted by Chen Xiao.
My family’s deepest impression was “learning.”
Both her parents and her two elder sisters have been self-taught, constantly “beyond”, and have achieved little success.
Did these achievements put a lot of pressure on Chen Xiao?
Chen Xiao’s answer denied my guess.
“My parents are very open-minded and let us decide for ourselves.
Even if I want to change my job this time, my mother said, just change it, you can try whatever you like, as long as you are happy!
A multi-dimensional question mark rose. Who asked Chen Xiao to ask himself like this, and who made Chen Xiao hesitate to do things like that?
”I’m wondering why your mother thinks about whether you leave or not, but you don’t know what to do?
“I asked my question.
Chen Xiao smiled embarrassed, “I sometimes find it ridiculous, I haven’t opened it with my parents!
I think this may have something to do with the decision I never made!
“Chen Xiao’s face gradually became serious.” In fact, there are many regrets in my life. In some years, I wanted to study medicine and became a nurse.
But at home, I felt like being a teacher, so I went to the teacher stupidly . The most regrettable thing is my marriage. I originally liked a teacher from my university and he was very kind to me.
But everyone said that it was not good to find a teacher.
I had no idea myself, and I ignored him.
When we met two years ago, we found out that we still had each other in our hearts. The kind of regret that made me saddened when I mentioned it!
“I noticed that Chen Xiao’s eye circles were reddish. She paused, trying hard to calm herself.
”So, I don’t want to let myself have too much regret anymore!
I have to choose my life!
Chen Xiao told me that she was faced with two opportunities: one was to stay in the existing unit, and after working for 20 years, she could have a stable old age;Start from scratch and reopen a world with your own strength.
Chen Xiao said that the education company introduced many foreign advanced ideas and cutting-edge education methods, which attracted her very much.
On the whole, schools are going downhill, and they will soon face the problem of restructuring. The future is uncertain.
From Chen Xiao’s remarks, I heard that it was obvious enough that she was eager to come out and start a career.
So what is she hesitating?
”I worry that I will struggle to compete with those young people.
And the company’s work intensity is very high, I’m afraid my body will die.
As others have said: After all, I had a job that made money without effort.
By that time, I’m really afraid . “” Are you afraid of regrets?
I’m afraid I can’t do it when I come out, and I don’t even have a way out.
“I don’t know why, in the course of my personality with Chen Xiao, I always heard two voices.
One is confident, vigorous, and aggressive, while the other is full of worry and doubt.
And Chen Xiao ‘s contradictions do n’t stop there. In the professional interest test, she showed a high score on two contradictory interests, which is not common.
It was hard for me to tell which of them was the real Chen Xiao.
So I asked Chen Xiao to draw a tree on paper and asked her to draw something to represent herself.
She said that she could only draw pine trees, and on a small part of the paper, she drew a very delicate, poplar-like pine tree, and a small flower near the top to represent herself.
After seeing this picture, I couldn’t help shaking.
I asked her if there was anything more to add?
She said no.
”What do you see from this picture?
“I asked Chen Xiao.
Chen Xiaoning thought for a while and said, “It doesn’t seem to match!
In fact, this painting is a projection of Chen Xiao’s inner world.
Pine tree represents the living environment she expects, and also represents her confident and powerful side, but the power of this side does not seem to be as powerful as imagined.
Flowers represent the high but weak side of her heart.
Such a gorgeous flower is lonely and dangerous on a tree full of pine needles.
Chen Xiao said that I did point out her two qualities: insecurity and loneliness.
The sense of insecurity made her think of her grandmother’s life before she was 8 years old, and she looked at her aunt’s face every day.
“Especially when eating, my aunt kept staring at me, and that kind of look would tremble now when I think of it.
“At this time, Chen Xiao’s look let me know what she said when she said” can’t learn anything “and” I’m afraid I can’t really do it when I come out. ”
That was not the voice of a mature woman, or the voice of a little girl who was only a few years old.
She is worried about her survival, she is afraid of the future, she is weak and helpless!
I told this to Chen Xiao, and she nodded again and again.
“I was hesitant in many things to choose from, and I missed many opportunities. Often, once things passed, I regretted it so much that I was too useless!
“” Because you are no longer that little girl. Once the crisis is over, your reason is back.
“”What should I do?
“Maybe the first thing you need to do now is to identify who you really are!”
Can you tell me what are the professional advantages of a teacher with 17 years of experience and rich education and teaching experience?
“Chen Xiao thought very seriously, listed, and wrote a total of more than ten.
As he wrote, the look of his arms changed.
This change is clearly directed towards the confident side.
“I find myself really great!
“You are really great!
Actually, it’s not just your school and the company you want to go to. Your competitiveness can also point to more places . “Chen Xiao thoughtfully,” Do you mean I don’t have to set my goalsSet so narrow?
“You can actually have many options!”
“. Chen Xiao’s career story can’t end in such a simple way.
The little girl who had been hiding behind her hadn’t disappeared so easily.
How many childhood shadows, Chen Xiao still needs to put in a lot of effort, including going to the psychological counselor for further interviews.
Behind an individual’s career choices are often personal integration issues.
Chen Xiao’s occupational interest test clearly shows the opposite characteristics of the two mutations, and it is relatively hasty to simply explain that he has a “double personality”.
Because behind these contradictions is actually the harm of childhood.
That little girl’s mode of helplessness and self-protection has been affecting Chen Xiao, and career choices are just one of those manifestations.
Therefore, in the professional assessment, the written test shows only a state, and the formation of this state and the true individual reflected also require us to specifically contact this person in order to understand.
Therefore, in career counseling, only a little test results may misread many valuable information.
Talking face to face with a career counselor will be more conducive to personal career development.